tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post7448066038960844340..comments2023-07-01T09:11:35.991-05:00Comments on The Confessions of a Multicultural Muslimah: You know what....Mollyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-76947749684297917622008-02-21T09:51:00.000-06:002008-02-21T09:51:00.000-06:00thanks dear! I will check them out.thanks dear! I will check them out.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-70597058511110659622008-02-21T07:37:00.000-06:002008-02-21T07:37:00.000-06:00i've always found islamonline to be uncrazy (for a...i've always found islamonline to be uncrazy (for a while there it was one of the few websites i could access from my office). also, my indu friend works as an editor at their cairo office and the fact that they agree to employ her (not even from ahl el kitaab!) says good things about them.Forsoothsayerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02765993032234113659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-63615953288776839112008-01-01T16:33:00.000-06:002008-01-01T16:33:00.000-06:00My good, dear friend C gave me a website I've hear...My good, dear friend C gave me a website I've heard about but never thought to use and <B><I>yay!</I></B> they actually do have good answers (at least from what I browsed) and they also have a WOMAN who answers WOMEN'S questions. Imagine that... an intelligent female. I don't think Islam Q&A believs those exist.<BR/><BR/>Check out http://qa.sunnipath.com/Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-81076536428213544302008-01-01T16:30:00.000-06:002008-01-01T16:30:00.000-06:00Umm Abdul Hakim: That is EXACTLY why that website ...Umm Abdul Hakim: That is EXACTLY why that website makes me so <I>ANGRY</I>, because how many people go to it looking to find out some more info about Islam because they're benignly curious and open to possible conversion? And how many read these answers and are forever lost to us?<BR/>Alhumdulillah you were strong enough in your deen (thank God thank God thank God) that you could walk away from an incredibly traumatizing experience and still stay a Muslim. You are a beacon of hope, I just fear for those that we've lost because of maniacal, narrow-minded, bigoted, extremist morons like that administrator. <BR/>ARGH!Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-20017224822522712222008-01-01T16:26:00.000-06:002008-01-01T16:26:00.000-06:00Imugi: Welcome to my blog, I'm glad to have you, a...Imugi: Welcome to my blog, I'm glad to have you, and I'm especially glad to know that non-Muslims come to read what I have to say. So much misinformation is given out about our religion and I'd like to think I, and other bloggers like me, could be an envoy between the two worlds. <BR/>I have never read or heard of the site you gave me, but I will definately check it out.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-23467695691702368472008-01-01T16:23:00.000-06:002008-01-01T16:23:00.000-06:00UmmLayla: I absolutely agree with you, and I know ...UmmLayla: I absolutely agree with you, and I know what you're saying about how things that would have pissed you off before you were Muslim being acceptable now. I am the same way, I do things now that my pre-Islamic self would never have agreed to. It happens and it comes from God. There is however a line that I don't think I'll ever be able to cross. Call it culture, call it feminism, call it progressive, call it whatever. I don't think I will ever agree with some things they teach.<BR/>And it gives Muslims a bad name to those who don't understand.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-89641359129227471582007-12-30T08:46:00.000-06:002007-12-30T08:46:00.000-06:00OK, I am not well-informed about different website...OK, I am not well-informed about different websites, as I am a new Muslimah, alhamdulilah, but I have liked different opinions I have from this website:<BR/>http://www.islamonline.net (then click ask the scholar)<BR/><BR/>There seem to be a lot of westerners asking questions, and I have not read a rude reply. <BR/><BR/>Please try not to be too upset. I get upset like that when I am being defensive. Remember that it does not matter what other people think of you or people like you, insha' allah the people who are offended by these people will find the right guidance. If you think this man is being harsh, then pray for him and be sincere in it, and it will ease your heart of these feelings, insha' allah. You have a loving husband and you know your situation. Is it really worth getting upset about? <BR/><BR/>When I converted, I went to the masjid without hijab. The imam there heard my shahadah and was very kind, and then sent me to the women's side. There was only one woman there, and she was nice, but she looked at me like I was a weird bug. The next Friday I went to Juma'a, also without hijab, and mostly no one would look at me or talk to me. I cried in my car on the way home. I really didn't even know you have to wear hijab in the masjid even if you don't wear it normally (now I wear it all the time, alhamdulilah). I stayed away from the Muslim community for months after this, for a lot of reasons including that my feelings were hurt, and it led me to many, many problems. These women could not understand me, and they had their own stuff going on, and it was all totally foreign to me. I was totally naive.<BR/><BR/>It was OK though, because Allah subhana wa ta'ala is merciful and aware, and eventually when I got over my hurt feelings, I went back to the masjid and met some women who have really been kind to me and helped me in many ways, alhamdulilah. Do not worry. Allah will guide the sincere people. You might be right to worry about this administrator (allahu alim) and those he comes across, but do it in the right way, the one that will be the best for you. Insha' allah.Umm Abdul Hakimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12175089770740524986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-14853279444323355972007-12-30T01:21:00.000-06:002007-12-30T01:21:00.000-06:00Peace,I'm a non-Muslim, so perhaps I'm not the bes...Peace,<BR/><BR/>I'm a non-Muslim, so perhaps I'm not the best person to be suggesting sites on Islam, but have you been to Imam Zaid's website, <A HREF="http://newislamicdirections.com/" REL="nofollow">New Islamic Directions</A>? I've found him to be quite sane, intelligent, and reasonable.The Imugihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03122746089573605909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-1766368492914986092007-12-29T21:31:00.000-06:002007-12-29T21:31:00.000-06:00There are many things that are all a matter of int...There are many things that are all a matter of interpreting the sunnah... Fiqh is not a responsabilty to be taken lightly (imho). I get miffed at these off the cuff answers I see on Q&A sites too sometimes. But I have to remind myself that there are many schools of Islamic jurisprudence and some are more strict than others. For example, the hadith you have sited has been taken in part (namely the part about marrying one who you could play with) to DEFEND marrying a virgin as recommended. Allahu'Alim.<BR/><BR/>The longer I am Muslim the more I see the things I disliked initialy in a global perspective and I have found that there are things that would've made me mad 8 years ago that I agree with now, subhan'Allah. <BR/><BR/>But, at the same time I have been on a personal journey of making certain things in the deen a priority... I have accepted that even the hard liner in me needs to have a little flexability. That niqab question is a case in point... Man, I say take off the hijab and all if there is a medical issue (though I can't imagine what that issue would be).<BR/><BR/>"Allah intends for you ease, and does not want to make things difficult for you" [2:185]; and "Allah does not want to place you in difficulty" [5:6].<BR/><BR/>Nuff said.UmmLaylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05288769161885258898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-56309582918566674572007-12-28T18:54:00.000-06:002007-12-28T18:54:00.000-06:00ok my husband just pointed out that there are two ...ok my husband just pointed out that there are two different types of answers, those answered by the administrator of the website, and those answered by a Sheikh. The ones answered by a Sheikh are generally ones I agree with, and all these ones with stupid, bigotted and small-minded answers were by the administrator.<BR/>Obviously he needs to be silenced. InshAllah he stops being allowed to answer questions.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-77510321995562998102007-12-28T17:36:00.000-06:002007-12-28T17:36:00.000-06:00salaam, i saw your question on my blog. i work fo...salaam, i saw your question on my blog. i work for the U of MN over on the riverside campus aka somaai central hahahaha. other than the occasional attempted molestation at starbucks i love working at that place.UmmAbdurRahmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09836313418391522585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-80044333225444389502007-12-28T17:03:00.000-06:002007-12-28T17:03:00.000-06:00Exactly. And I also think that its bad if you try ...Exactly. And I also think that its bad if you try to force someone to conform to your culture saying that you have to do it or you're not Muslim, etc. As far as I know this is even haraam to do so (unsubstantiated claim cuz I don't have time to look it up at the moment.)Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-55319738763772012082007-12-28T16:02:00.000-06:002007-12-28T16:02:00.000-06:00of course it is aimed at converts. the problem is...of course it is aimed at converts. the problem is they think we should behave the same way that muslims in their countries do. They put a lot of their cultural mumbo-jumbo into the mix. <BR/><BR/>It's like okay you convert...act like us or else. Culture isn't inherently bad. In fact american culture can be just the same as any other "muslim" culture...the only time culture is bad is when it contradicts islam. PERIOD!UmmAbdurRahmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09836313418391522585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-88070512286662713462007-12-28T15:37:00.000-06:002007-12-28T15:37:00.000-06:00I know what you're saying, but if you look their e...I know what you're saying, but if you look their entire website (in english) is aimed at western converts. They answer these things with a biased and closeminded view of Islam AND a lot of people read them. <BR/>With Muslims like these, who needs hate-mongering enemies? They do it singlehandedly.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-7913206253737092782007-12-28T14:56:00.000-06:002007-12-28T14:56:00.000-06:00Salamu Alaikum. Oh dear sister I'm totally follow...Salamu Alaikum. Oh dear sister I'm totally following you on this one. I've seen you commenting around on other blogs that I frequent. I also live in the twin cities.<BR/><BR/>I work at a hospital and alhamdulillah because I work at night it is me and one other woman. I don't deal with patients, but most of our pathologists are male. I have to interact with them very briefly in the morning. I too have to work and just have to laugh at fatawa that prevent women from providing for their family.<BR/><BR/>I laugh even harder when they try to say "work from home", but I wouldn't make nearly as much money as I do now if I did that. <BR/><BR/>You have to remember that these scholars are answering questions from a different perspective. They look at the situation of women in their own countries, but don't realize the plight of the american muslimah. It is very different from the muslimah in the middle east. This is why it's best to find a fatwa from someone in your own area who knows the situation of the muslims and can better help you.UmmAbdurRahmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09836313418391522585noreply@blogger.com