tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post3867967270112666243..comments2023-07-01T09:11:35.991-05:00Comments on The Confessions of a Multicultural Muslimah: Making Nice With the JonesesMollyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-68945302349330800562008-02-24T16:59:00.000-06:002008-02-24T16:59:00.000-06:00S- lol you def have to show me those if I move the...S- lol you def have to show me those if I move there this summer. <BR/><BR/>And I have plenty of non-veiled friends here. Plus all my family. We get along fine. In fact most of them barely notice it as something wierd any more, they're just excited to see how I match them up with my clothes. Maybe its cuz we're from the same culture. who knows.<BR/>your office has a no-veil policy? wtf?Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-884319323101748152008-02-24T07:47:00.000-06:002008-02-24T07:47:00.000-06:00people don't like to be with people who look diffe...people don't like to be with people who look different. i mean - i don't have any veiled friends. i'd feel weird - there are too many areas of conversation we can't have in common (although with western chicks it is of course easier). and they don't want me either, for the same reason (that, and where will i meet them? my friends don't have any veiled friends and my office has a no veil policy). i see mixed groups of veiled and unveiled chicks all the time but i guess they might have more in common. anyway, don't feel bad. they may never get used to it but u should go on about your business - or move to a muslim country where u will feel the exact opposite of how conspicuous u feel there! better scarves available too. i know where the good stuff is in egypt btw - none of the hot polyester business.Forsoothsayerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02765993032234113659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-13825181535363345162008-02-17T01:54:00.000-06:002008-02-17T01:54:00.000-06:00that sounds really tough Molly, insh'Allah you wil...that sounds really tough Molly, insh'Allah you will get rewarded for doing what you're doing. The blessing's in the struggle. <BR/><BR/>"What are the best deeds in the eyes of Allah?<BR/>Gentle manners, modesty, and patience in adversity" - related by Imam Ibn HanbalVanessa Fatimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05786338986965688200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-74711053273975857652008-02-12T08:31:00.000-06:002008-02-12T08:31:00.000-06:00Mama Kalila- I'm so glad you wrote that because it...Mama Kalila- I'm so glad you wrote that because its such an important point. Its not just Islam that provokes this type of response, its any religion that makes people feel the lack of their own. I could have become a Jehovah's Witness and they would have been the same way. Or a Mormon. Or a Jew. So on and so forth. <BR/><BR/>LF- You're hair! lol, like because she can't see it any more? But alhumdulillah she supports you. Its like that with me and my mom, she hates it, but she supports me in it. Alhumdulillah.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-82820308016012120342008-02-11T21:39:00.000-06:002008-02-11T21:39:00.000-06:00I just found your blog off of another & am enjoyin...I just found your blog off of another & am enjoying reading it. I'm not muslim myself, but I can understand what you're talking about in this one. I am one of two Catholics in my moms side (she's the other but doesn't really practice) & apparently my praying (silently mind you) or leaving to go to Mass while visiting is pushing my religion on them. And it doesn't fall into religion for me, but it bothers both sides of my family that I don't eat pork. I don't get it, but... <BR/><BR/>I'm sorry you have to deal with that though. Is rough. Even if they don't agree... it's your religion, your beliefs. & there is nothing wrong w/ wearing hijab. I've done it myself... more than once. & yes, have gotten comments both good & bad. But I hope it gets better!Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06877510817457439788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-90858016125324755032008-02-08T03:43:00.000-06:002008-02-08T03:43:00.000-06:00salaam: my poor old gramma just stares at my scarf...salaam: my poor old gramma just stares at my scarf the whole time we talk sometimes. like, i'll be going on about the weather and she'll bust out with "Oh, your hair! your beautiful hair!"<BR/><BR/>she also re-affirms that she is very "proud of me" just so I know that my lifestyle choices don't disturb her beyond her love for me.luckyfatimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09401964343346156712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-6080795798253270522008-02-06T09:09:00.000-06:002008-02-06T09:09:00.000-06:00Brooke- That is absolutely awful, I can't even ima...Brooke- That is absolutely awful, I can't even imagine if I hd to deal with that. Honestly I can deal with the passive agressive bs better than overt beatings. And thanks! I hope you keep coming!<BR/><BR/>Mona- There was a commercial for like Tide stain remover I think. The tide stick. Anyways it was a commercial about a guy at a job interview talking but the stain on his shirt is shouting random gibberish so you can never hear what the guy is saying. The guy pauses and the stain pauses, the guy talks and the stain starts shrieking again. It was HILARIOUS, the commercials were prime this year.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-33208416344264498132008-02-06T06:31:00.000-06:002008-02-06T06:31:00.000-06:00Molly, We didnt see the super bowl here but I'm as...Molly, We didnt see the super bowl here but I'm assuming it's like if someone has like a big mole on the end of their nose, you can't help but focus on it?Mona Zenhomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17881961590047177174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-90720540913389937502008-02-05T21:54:00.000-06:002008-02-05T21:54:00.000-06:00I know two brothers who were BEAT UP by their fami...I know two brothers who were BEAT UP by their families when they converted...Nice blog...yeah, I couldn't find a better way to string those together :)<BR/>~BrookeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-7154765788008306662008-02-05T09:12:00.000-06:002008-02-05T09:12:00.000-06:00Mona- I honestly don't have it as bad as some conv...Mona- I honestly don't have it as bad as some converts I've met. My family will still talk to me and hang out with me in the house when I don't have it on. Its just when I'm wearing the hijab that they freak out. Maybe its like the stain on that guys shirt in the superbowl commercial, my hijab talks louder than I do.<BR/><BR/>Safiyyah- are you serious??? That is ABSOLUTELY AWFUL! How heart wrenching that must have been :( and you get it doubly, religious discrimination AND racism. SubhanAllah. I'm so sorry honey. InshAllah you will be rewarded in Jannah for all the pain you suffered in this life for your religion. Ameen.<BR/><BR/>Gulnari- 90% of the time I get complimented on my pretty hijabs, but this is from other people such as coworkers and patients. And my mom, who rocks. Goodness knows my gramma can't compliment me on my style when its pinching her nose and telling her off for eating bacon.<BR/><BR/>solace- Welcome! I'm glad to have you! Yeah, and that really hurts when its your mom. My gramma and my aunt are one thing, but I can live with their phobias. I consider myself incredibly lucky to have a mom who not only accepts me, but compliments my style, and goes to muslim stores to give me her advice on what would look nice with my outfit. <BR/>InshAllah your mom will come around. I wish you well and hope you keep coming to visit my blog. :)Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-17458791398168477652008-02-05T08:50:00.000-06:002008-02-05T08:50:00.000-06:00Safiya- Is that why???? Goodness I didn't know I h...Safiya- Is that why???? Goodness I didn't know I had such naughty hijabs. Thats what I get for buying egyptian tarhas.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-32540464117619986432008-02-05T08:48:00.000-06:002008-02-05T08:48:00.000-06:00Organic- My grandmother never does, I think she's ...Organic- My grandmother never does, I think she's afraid she'd be kidnapped or robbed at gunpoint if she ventured into that area. And my aunt is just a snob. As for my dad's side of the family, they're all hicks from the boondocks and if they ever did leave their predominately white villages its certainly not to soak up the local culture or challenge their ignorance. I love my family, but they are severely undereducated.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501121330101103343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-47787245252867355242008-02-05T04:44:00.000-06:002008-02-05T04:44:00.000-06:00I can totally relate to your experiences with your...I can totally relate to your experiences with your family.<BR/><BR/>I realised this past december that the reason my mother doesn't want to go shopping with me is because she is ashamed of being seen in public with me.<BR/><BR/>Insha'Allah it will change over time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-70166723434041036502008-02-05T01:04:00.000-06:002008-02-05T01:04:00.000-06:00Good God... people really need to get over it. Wha...Good God... people really need to get over it. What's the big deal? Even if I remove myself from my Muslim point of view, and try to think in a neutral way, I still can't see what's so special about it that gets people's panties in a knot. I only notice cute hairclips. ;)J Levhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12636658639471008341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-25401285991586326412008-02-04T17:20:00.000-06:002008-02-04T17:20:00.000-06:00As Salaamu Alaikum Sis:I can relate. My stepmothe...As Salaamu Alaikum Sis:<BR/><BR/>I can relate. My stepmother didn't inform me of my father's death until the evening of the funeral. She didn't want my husband and I showing up at the synagogue (me in hijab, husband African-American). <BR/><BR/>But Allah (swt) says we can't break family ties. Regardless, we have to be patient. It is a test for sure.Safiyyahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07670659439981133346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-58278455782449526752008-02-04T16:12:00.000-06:002008-02-04T16:12:00.000-06:00That really sucks. It's one thing to have stranger...That really sucks. It's one thing to have strangers stare or make comments in the street or the mall, but intirely another when it's your own family, that really hurts. I hope Allah puts acceptance in their hearts.Mona Zenhomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17881961590047177174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-91355730297695227662008-02-04T15:57:00.000-06:002008-02-04T15:57:00.000-06:00Salaam Alaikum,Don't you know that when you think ...Salaam Alaikum,<BR/><BR/>Don't you know that when you think your hijab is just sitting on your head minding it's own business, it's actually pinching people's noses and telling them off for eating bacon. It's true! ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311539591983360613.post-64398531547168040962008-02-04T13:21:00.000-06:002008-02-04T13:21:00.000-06:00Do these people ever go through Minneapolis? Maybe...Do these people ever go through Minneapolis? Maybe Cedar.Organicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02401078847828763090noreply@blogger.com